One of the main tenants of GRIEVER’S BALL is that some grieving people long to talk about their grief and those they’re grieving, while other grieving people long to hear from others about how they’re moving through this experience.
I love reading about your dad ♥️ and these questions are great. When my dad died, almost no one spoke to me about it, I was really shocked. But it made me realize that I avoided people's grief and the topic of death too. So from then on, I committed to reaching out to people and offering support and acknowledging their loss and grief, and it has been so rewarding. People DO want to share. And they often say "Thank you. No one has asked me how I'm doing." There's a notion that bringing up someone's loss will "remind" and upset them. That person is experiencing that loss 24/7.
yes ! this is exactly what Griever's Ball is about ---- the shock we feel in our aloneness, in realizing how unable some of our closest friends are to sit with us and hold us in those moments. I don't mean it as in indictment and I know you don't either, just more of a signal, an opportunity, a way that we can be a part of re-humanizing our communities. this project truly grew out of a moment where a friend and i joked about wearing buttons that say "ask me about my dead dad" -- like you said, we DO want to share. in fact, sharing is what heals us.
grateful that you're out there being pro-active, welcoming others to process and standing by in friendship while they do. thank you!
and thank you for your good words about the questionnaire i put together -- maybe you'll take the time to answer the questions for yourself; use them journal prompts or similar.
That’s so beautiful—what a gift to have witnessed her glimpsing a new world or something similar. Thank you for appreciating my story as well—it’s sort of vulnerable to share, bc it really was such a surreally beautiful (and almost cliche) moment. ♥️
I love reading about your dad ♥️ and these questions are great. When my dad died, almost no one spoke to me about it, I was really shocked. But it made me realize that I avoided people's grief and the topic of death too. So from then on, I committed to reaching out to people and offering support and acknowledging their loss and grief, and it has been so rewarding. People DO want to share. And they often say "Thank you. No one has asked me how I'm doing." There's a notion that bringing up someone's loss will "remind" and upset them. That person is experiencing that loss 24/7.
yes ! this is exactly what Griever's Ball is about ---- the shock we feel in our aloneness, in realizing how unable some of our closest friends are to sit with us and hold us in those moments. I don't mean it as in indictment and I know you don't either, just more of a signal, an opportunity, a way that we can be a part of re-humanizing our communities. this project truly grew out of a moment where a friend and i joked about wearing buttons that say "ask me about my dead dad" -- like you said, we DO want to share. in fact, sharing is what heals us.
grateful that you're out there being pro-active, welcoming others to process and standing by in friendship while they do. thank you!
and thank you for your good words about the questionnaire i put together -- maybe you'll take the time to answer the questions for yourself; use them journal prompts or similar.
thank you for sharing your thoughts ~~
LC
Time in a Bottle - WOW
love this
My mom had a little gasp (with eyes closed), like she saw something. ❤️
That’s so beautiful—what a gift to have witnessed her glimpsing a new world or something similar. Thank you for appreciating my story as well—it’s sort of vulnerable to share, bc it really was such a surreally beautiful (and almost cliche) moment. ♥️
Thank you Julie